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Friday, April 27th, 2012

The Gift of Imperfection

A diamond with a flaw

is worth more than

a pebble without imperfections.

(Chinese Proverb)

Do you ever feel like you ran into a brick wall?  I do.  I ran into one today.  It was my fault.  I lost my patience, really lost it, and was unkind.  Afterwards I remembered what I used to tell my daughters when they were little:  “You can think whatever you want, but you can’t say whatever you want.”

I had been planning on writing this column about the joy of imperfection.  I just didn’t plan on being this imperfect. That said, there is a happiness that comes when you realize that perfection isn’t possible and stop criticizing yourself for all the ways that you aren’t perfect. When you don’t have to try to be perfect, you can…
Eat dessert instead of dinner.
Fold the laundry tomorrow.

Hate broccoli and brussel sprouts and liver.

Enjoy singing silly songs like “Dorothy the Dinosaur.”

Eat popcorn with lots of butter.

Stop beating yourself up over all the “Should have’s.”

The best part of being imperfect is knowing that God doesn’t expect perfection. He expects simply love, for Him and for other people.

Being able to be imperfect is a sacred gift.  I wish you countless sacred gifts.

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Tuesday, August 10th, 2010

The Gift of Imperfection

We are all imperfect.  Thank God! Perfection would be a terrible burden. At times we have each carried that burden. We have tried to be the perfect wife, perfect daughter, perfect mother, perfect friend, perfect student, perfect athlete, perfect employee, perfect everything for everybody.  Imagine how utterly exhausting it would be to try to be all those things.  Even writing the list is tiring.

Yet so many times we think that other people are expecting, even demanding, that we be perfect.  We certainly expect it of ourselves.  I know that I have always said, “Good enough isn’t.”  I still believe that “good enough” isn’t good.  I have come to belive, though, that “try to do your best” is good.  In fact, it is great, as long as you realize that “best” and “perfect” are not the same thing.  Our best will always be imperfect.  Hallelujah!

Realizing that perfection, except in extremely rare instances, is impossible is liberating.  We don’t have to try to live up to an impossible ideal of the perfect me.  Instead we can be the real me. Life is hard enough without wearing the yoke of the impossible.

Perfection as life’s goal is impossible.  Think of the obstacles we face.  All the people we interact with are imperfect.  Everyone has problems every day.  Some problems are huge, even life-threatening. Most problems are annoying, frustrating and often costly.  Emotions surge through us constantly.  We live with disappointments.  We live with anger. Some days life can best be described as gears grinding against each other rather than passing smoothly.

There is no way we can be perfect living in an imperfect mind and body in an imperfect world. So, enough.  Let’s just enjoy being ourselves and make happiness our goal.

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Finding happiness in imperfection is a sacred gift.  I wish you countless sacred gifts.

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